frazzled & mil - HUGGS!
frazzled,
TY for your kind words. I had decided to leave this board last night. B-4 going to bed, I checked in. I have enough drama/conflict in my life. I don't want to know the backstories/other people's agendas.
Thank you for reminding me of that.
I have 2 adult children, 1 teen & 2 grandchildren. I'm a working mother & doing the best I can w/ the knowledge I have. I try my best to get information from friends, teachers, church & other moms to make it all work. I try to pass on what worked for me, pray & cross my fingers that the combination works. I have learned to appreciate those precious moments you shared w/ all of us.
Mil shared with us that she has an obstinate child that doesn't live w/ her. Mil, hang in there, honey. Your child sounds angry, the love is still there. It may not happen today, tomorrow or for quite some time.
Keep doing what you are doing. Show your love & support @ every rejection. Show your child God's love. How many times have u turned your back on God's advice? Many times here!
I'm ''kinda'' in your situation w/ one of my children. I just haven't taken the stand yet. I hope I can follow this advice myself. They have a choice/ that free-will that we all have. It's frustrating & hurtful to us as a parent. At our age, we see the big picture, they don't. At our age, we have to be willing to stand up to the anger/fallout our children may show. That is when we have to ''turn the other cheek'', with our hurt & ask for help from others to keep us strong.
We all try our best w/ our children. Sometimes they appreciate it. It's important that WE remember those wonderful moments, so that we can be strong when our ''child'' begins using that free will. The guilt we feel should be less when the fallout from the decisions made by them start happening? It isn't.
Keep loving your child, don't allow bitterness to enter. Stand your ground & be loving. I hope I can do so when I need to be. Being a Mother is the ultimate & hardest gift from God. He wouldn't have given us this GIFT if He didn't believe in us, or the support & love we can give to each other.
