Muscatine

are on my mind tonight. Every one of you matter to me today. Tomorrow, probably not so much(just kidding!!)

It's funny. You can be cruising along in your life, everything seems to be fine.....and then something happens and you have to take stock of what is really going on in your world.

Now, nothing dramatic has happened in my life lately, but some things in the past sustain their importance.

...I miss talking to my daughter more than anything in the world. I wish I was a better ''dad''. I wish I could see her.

just rambling

pay no attention. It will all work out.

SV

I have to respond to your post because I was at odds with my youngest daughter for quite a few years. There were hundreds of miles separating us so that made things difficult. I am not sure who made the first move but I know our coming together would not have happened if she had not allowed it to happen. I know what missing a daughter is all about. At this time of year, let her know how much you care for her and how you would like to be with her. Time is valuable; don't waste it. I care neighbor.

hang in there, SV

I agree with LionJack. My grandaughter's daddy has been in & out of her life; some of it has been because of his choices & actions. She's doubted his love, we never have.
We told her often that ''her daddy wasn't perfect, but the love he had for her was'', and to never let go of or doubt that!
The first man a woman will ever love is her father. She'll get angry, ALL KIDS, get angry when they feel that they aren't being supported, or treated unfairly. She may be lashing out in hurt. (The angrier a person is, the more hurt they are)! Allow her to vent that hurt while you stay patient & listen! As LJ said, continue to try make a connection, don't force it. Every time you send a card, make a call, listen to angry words & allow her to reject you, if need be; you will be REINFORCING to her that YOU ARE HER FATHER. ''(I LOVE & accept you, no matter what you choose to do or say)''. Don't allow her to force you to leave.
I've supported moms on this site, they are so important; SO ARE DADS! My husband's father deserted him & his siblings when he was 6 yrs. old & never accepted the many attempts at reconcilliation. I thought my husband had written his dad off. The day he heard that his dad died was a very difficult day for him. ''(If the person that helped create me doesn't accept the person I am, what does that say about me?)''
So many kids are dealing with this? Some find their way, some don't.
HANG IN THERE & be strong! ''Time is valuable, don't waste it, I CARE''...a QUOTE from a very WISE father! Don't let his words go to waste! She loves you, daddy SV, she needs you, she just may not be able to let you know @ this point of her life. ''Patience is a virtue''.