Private personal property

Posted in: Whisper Meadow
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  • fedup10
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You really do not know me, or even tried to. IF you did, you would have liked me. But I definitely know exactly who you are and still have all video footage to back up my allegations regarding the trespassing and vandalism. Thanks for having a barbeque in my honor, but I already  knew about that because I was in the neighborhood  at the time. I also have seen what has been done to my property and I won't say anything about it because I'm not one to judge. That's God's job.But just imagine being in a constant state of paranoia because you just know your going to come home and find a window broken or damage to your property from softballs, baseballs, etc being thrown at random and without regard. If you have spent as many hours flipping through video survellance as I have, you would see my worries were not unfounded. Also, I've seen damage inflicted upon your vehicles caused by kids throwing balls. And imagine worring about these things for 2 and a half years, non-stop, 24 hours a day. Could you enjoy your new home or feel comfortable in it? Can you even think about how you would feel? Did you try to do your part to respect all of your neighbors and make them feel welcomed? Including myself? Did it ever occur to you that the loud "vulgar" music, the cactuses, the aguave plants, the olianders, the bright, glaring lights, and  other tactics employed were simply to send a message? I know you called the cops out because they told me you did, and I told them why I was dong it-completely understood. And to think that I tried to help you out one time when I heard about your property loss by notifiying the cops and showing them through video some suspicious activity in the neighborhood. I didn't expect a "thank you", but some sort of acknowledgment would have been nice. Anyway, I'm very happy that you have welcomed the new family that I sold the house to and hopefully they will never have the concerns and issues that I did.

BTW; I no longer play music outside at all,  I have only trees and beautiful grass in the front yard, and I no longer have to be tied to a video surveillance monitor for hours each day to view activity around my house, and I could not ask for better, more respectful neighbors. Have I changed, or is this just the way things should be?

We would have loved to have had the opportunity to have gotten to know you, especially when we first moved in and didn't know the issues you'd had previously, so you could see it WAS NOT US, but you, your roommate/significant other and whomever's mother were always around shaking fingers and looking down at us and every other family here, preventing you from having a relationship with anyone or vice versa. 


When we arrived here, we asked about you, and we were warned about you and your dislike for children. Then we witnessed it first hand on many occasions, and we were shocked. God knows what happened before we got here, but I can tell you, with certainty, it wasn't us. I truly think you have every child here labeled in this neighborhood as heathens and hoodrats when they are not, and it is sad. They're just kids. They play. They seek adventure. They are not the enemy.

 

I do recall a couple families with a few lax parenting skills that have long since moved, but we are NOT all the same. You say if WE would've tried to get to know YOU that WE would've liked YOU? What about the other way around? You never ONCE gave any of us the time of day, just talking about us and making assumptions (as is evident by your postings here). We're all just dirtbag parents to dirtbag kids to you, aren't we? 

 

Listen, in all the years we've lived everywhere we've lived, we've never had a disturbance call or anything on us. The noise our children make are from laughter, games, and fun. No loud booming music from stereos, no curse words, no disrespect to elders, always "Yes ma'am," and "No sir," and the like. We've always taken care of our yards, gardened with care, mowed and weed eated, offering to help out neighbors who needed it (deployed families, elderly, and the like), and we've always developed a loving home outside as much as it is inside, no matter where the military took us. We love decorating, both inside and out - if we were truly horrible people who raised children who defile property, wouldn't our house have reflected that, too? Wouldn't the other family's houses, too? 

 

Not a single person anywhere else had issues with windows broken or damages from balls because of the kids playing, whether they had kids living there or not. In fact, in all our years here, I've only heard of a couple random break-ins, but not from children who lived here, never from a child's ball or anything. There was no t-ball or stick ball with rocks, ever. Not one time have I ever seen a softball or baseball being used in the neighborhood, only soccer balls (soft), kickballs (also soft), those bouncy balls (really soft), footballs (medium), or basketballs (the hardest of the bunch), but the latter was once upon a time, couple years back, when there was a hoop up. You saw fit to kibosh the neighborhood kids' fun back then by calling on that family every chance you got to take down their hoop and move the net because it bothered you, despite the laughter and joy it brought the kids to play. 

 

You can talk about "video footage" all you want, but it wasn't my children. My children never did anything to you - we - as parents - never did anything to you. I truly think, in your hatred for all children, that you have every child here labeled as one and the same when they are not. 

 

Very happy you're thrilled with your new neighborhood and neighbors. Did you change? No, absolutely not, as is evident by your bitter words here. You continue to hate all of us because of what you THOUGHT we all were. You always had respectful and kind neighbors, you just didn't care to appreciate any of them because of your hatred for children. I guess your new neighborhood has far less children who choose the indoors instead of playing outside more freely. Since you love that old saying "Children should be seen and not heard," I'm sure you've hit the jackpot there. Enjoy!

By the way, in re-reading what you wrote, we didn't have a property loss. You, again, have our kind-hearted family confused with a family you hated so desperately that you hated all children who lived here.

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  • fedup10
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O.K., sorry for the slight confusion on my part. Now I understand. But you see, you said when you arrived in the neighborhood, you asked  others about me or my "roommate" (FYI He is my business associate of 12 years) .By asking others, you developed a pre-conceived notion of me and/or my associate and therefore did not even give yourself the chance to make your own judgments about us. 

I want to clarify that neither of us have a hatred for children, as previously stated, it was what they were allowed to do by their parents and their upbringing that were the problems. And in case you are thinking we know nothing about children, or hate children, just a BTW;  one or both of us have children and grandchildren of our own, bet you didnt' imagine that. But your taking what your other neighbors said about us for law prevented you from getting to know us and forming an unbiased opinion. We are both retired from the military, one enlisted, the other an officer and one of us is a disabled veteran. So, like you, we have lived many parts of the world, served the country, experienced a lot of life, and are well rounded, highly educated (one has two master degrees) individuals.

I'm a little disappointed because you are right, your children did exhibit more of the respect factor than many others and the video footage that I maintain to this day really does not show your kids as being the way I previously described. And yes, I've only seen your children playing with the softer objects, but believe me, there are others who use actual baseballs, wooden and metal bats, and other hard balls-I maintain a collection of them because they were left carelessly in my yard on many occasions. However, I don't think any belonged to your children. Yes, I know that your kids, although not perfect angels, (nobody is, everybody is human) did display more of the traits associated with a good home. I appreciate your acknowledgment about the way things were prior to your moving in, and yes, they were very bad, but one family moved out a while back, which mad a bit of a difference but there were other children who lived further away who we had issues with being in the driveway, yard, and behind the back fence doing things children should not have been doing.And I do not honestly believe your kids or your family were a problem. That is one reason we tried interacting with you on several occasions. 

 

It would be nice if others could learn from you because it wood indeed make for a nicer neighborhood, but its still a shame that  in order for me to feel comfortable, I had to move out of a brand new house and start over in a new neighborhood. I don't believe that is fair. It also hurts to drive by (still know people over there) and see how much the property has changed after I put all of the labor, time, and expenses into making it my own and now it is so different.

Anyway, I believe everything happens for a reason and although I would not describe it as hitting the jackpot the way you say,  at least I can sit outside in peace and quiet and just listen to nature,  trains, and distant traffic from the highway, or even take a nap at 3 in the afternoon without having one eye opened. Hope all remains well. 

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