have you tried?
I have been married for 29 years. Some have been beautiful; many have not. There have been a couple of times that I made out a list, took my husband out & showed it to him.
On one side of the paper, I had listed the ABSOLUTE REQUIREMENTS I needed from him. The other side of the paper had REQUESTS/NEGOTIABLE hopes from my spouse.
The first time, His response was to throw his hands in the air & say, ''tell me what to do & how to act to save our marriage and I'll do it''. That really pissed me off! He finally came around & we were able to communicate. I was able to hear him & I was able to hear him.
Our marriage is still a challenge @ times, but isn't every relationship?
Make out your own list of requests & reqirements & present it to your wife. Ask her to do the same. It may work, it may not. If it doesn't, it will help you to know that 1) you did your best @ communicating & attempting to save your marriage. 2) you organized your thoughts to know what you want and need from a future relationship.
You will be in my thoughts & prayers. Every relationship has it's challenges. It doesn't define you as a person. If she chooses to leave, it's her issues, not yours. You are a good person & you did your best. Dwell on the happy moments & take that forward with you. Take the negative moments & learn from them to live a fulfilling life. Fight while you can; know when to accept the worst? That is the best we can all hope for. Hang in there. ''In the worst of storms, there is always a rainbow''...sometimes it's just hard to find.
I have been married for 29 years. Some have been beautiful; many have not. There have been a couple of times that I made out a list, took my husband out & showed it to him.
On one side of the paper, I had listed the ABSOLUTE REQUIREMENTS I needed from him. The other side of the paper had REQUESTS/NEGOTIABLE hopes from my spouse.
The first time, His response was to throw his hands in the air & say, ''tell me what to do & how to act to save our marriage and I'll do it''. That really pissed me off! He finally came around & we were able to communicate. I was able to hear him & I was able to hear him.
Our marriage is still a challenge @ times, but isn't every relationship?
Make out your own list of requests & reqirements & present it to your wife. Ask her to do the same. It may work, it may not. If it doesn't, it will help you to know that 1) you did your best @ communicating & attempting to save your marriage. 2) you organized your thoughts to know what you want and need from a future relationship.
You will be in my thoughts & prayers. Every relationship has it's challenges. It doesn't define you as a person. If she chooses to leave, it's her issues, not yours. You are a good person & you did your best. Dwell on the happy moments & take that forward with you. Take the negative moments & learn from them to live a fulfilling life. Fight while you can; know when to accept the worst? That is the best we can all hope for. Hang in there. ''In the worst of storms, there is always a rainbow''...sometimes it's just hard to find.
