Muscatine

Dec 7, 2007
I was just wondering if anyone had any mother in law from hell stories they could share. I still believe mine is the devil but it would be fun to hear if anyone else has one as bad as mine..
-By joey3 (joey3)
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Dec 8, 2007
are very lucky herman..mine is horrible and she is trying to bring me and my husband down before the holidays. I just wondered if there was anyone else out there that had to deal with MIL's like her..and what to do.
-By joey3 (joey3)
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Joey3,
I've been blessed. My mother & mother-in-law were/are loving & supportive in my 29+ yrs. of marriage. I am now a mother-in-law. It's so very hard!
I've tried to emulate what they tried to teach me. I've failed many times. Been accused of ''preaching?'' LOL! (IMAGINE THAT)! I was on that alter 2x, promising ''in Gods Eye'' that I was willing to let go, let them go on their merry way!
I want to know that my child has picked a spouse that will love & support them; call them/me out when necessary. I hope that my child's spouse will respect me, (yet hold their own); that if a dispute occurs, (respectfully, of course)!, they feel free to unite & share those concerns. Have you tried talking to your spouse & then being honest w/ your mother-in-law, kindly, forcefully & as a team? She wants the 2 of you to stand on your own. Show her what you are made of, as a team. She has wisdom to share w/ you. You love her child as much as she does. It's not a contest. What do you appreciate about her? She obviously raised a person you love & admire. That is a place to start. You may be a mother-in law someday? Treat her the way you would want to be treated? Good luck, joey3, Hugs & Merry Christmas.

Tlou

I am up early this morning and reading your post. I just wanted to let you know how much I have appreciated your posts on this board. You are an inspiration to me as your kind words and wisdom does emanate from your heart. I believe your husband and family are very fortunate to have your outlook on life to benefit them in many ways. I feel that our neighborhood is a better place because of you.

mothers-in-law

I had the greatest. Treated me like a daughter from the day I met her, so I would really struggle to find something bad to say. Not that we didn't disagree sometimes, but we did it respectfully, always keeping in mind the greater good as far as our family was concerned. We lost her recently, and I will miss her more than I can express. Truly like a 2nd mother to me.

joey3, I really do feel bad that you don't have a decent relationship with your mil, and I don't even have any suggestions on how to repair it. Guess I'm just grateful I didn't experience what you are.

Finally, I can only say that as a parent, when your child finds ''the one'', you will not think anyone is deserving of your son/daughter, but the man or woman the ultimately choose to marry is part of your family. I'm not sure being a mother-in-law is an experience we can appreciate until we've been there, and it's probably important for both you and your mil to try to look at it from the other's point of view.

I do hope things get better for you with yours. It might take more giving on your part than you are willing to right now, but in the long run, it will be worth it.

Good luck,
Lil

ty vm LJ, joey3 & lilsmom

I appreciated your kind words. I doubt myself a lot sometimes. Posting is scary to some of us. The words I type do come from my heart, and I really try to picture myself being on the receiving end of the words before I push the send button.
I'm not afraid of being called out if I've offended another. I want that honesty. I think about the criticism & try to see the other point of view, and am willing to admit when I've been wrong. It's really hard when you don't ''reallly know'' the others? LILSMOM, I can tell you have a wonderful support network. You bring that love & support along w/ your posts! JOEY3, I'm glad you felt like you could share your concerns & hope you can figure this out with your MIL. It is worth it! LJ, you make me think & have a very deep soul that I appreciate.
I'm slowly learning. There are a lot of posters that I get excited to see when I come to this site, I know that they are going to make me think, make me laugh, (or LOL)!, tick me off! It's life! Your posts are ones I always read, so is Lilsmom & so many others. I don't feel like I can name them all, I don't remember them & don't remember all the names, yet? I know the names when I see them, step in the right direction! LOL!
Everyone should feel safe & free to state their opinion, even the ones we disagree with! Makes it more interesting, right? To make them feel safe to post, we need to let them know that we may not agree, but agree to respect their opinion, (as long as they follow those same rules)! If a person deviates, IMVHO, they are fair game, (including me)!
I've learned much from many posters; positive & negative. I want people in my life that will challenge my intellect, my moral compass & my beliefs. Many of you have done that for me. I appreciate that.